Prepare to Liberate Your Fantasies
Sexual fantasies are a normal part of a healthy sex life. From exhibitionism to sex clubs, the possibilities of exploration for you and your partner are endless. Living out your sexual fantasy can be extremely rewarding and open your eyes to new experiences as a couple. However, it can also backfire if you have not thoroughly discussed the experience you are about to embark on together. Deciding in the moment can often lead to regret. Communication is key. There are several key points, or “Rules of Engagement”, to discuss with your partner prior to liberating your fantasies.
- General consensus. Talk it through. Make sure you are both on the same page. Neither partner should feel pressured by the other to participate. If you are nervous, or have any hesitation, now is not the time to be timid. Voice your concerns. Mental intimacy and trust is a must.
- Do your research. “Google” it. Rent a movie. Join a forum and ask the questions that you do not know the answers to. Knowledge is key. Know what you are getting into. The more you know, the more comfortable you will be and the more pleasurable the experience will be.
- Set the rules and live by them. Not general rules, be detailed. For example, simply stating touching is okay, is not specific enough. Does that include all private areas? Is there a difference between touching and a hand job? BE SPECIFIC. It is also important to have a “safe-word” a signal for each of you that immediately stops your participation in case either of you are feeling uncomfortable.
- Be in the right state of mind. If you are having a generally bad day, you and your partner are in an argument or you are simply not feeling well, it is probably not the day to embark on a relationship changing experience. Your state of mind directly effects your experience. Being in the right state of mind also applies to excessive drinking and/or drug usage. One or two cocktails could take the edge off but three or four may have you making decisions or going along with activities that you normally wouldn’t. Not remembering or regretting your actions the next day will create anxiety and lead to bigger issues.
- Follow-Up. Discuss everything about the experience the next day. Make sure that you openly discuss the details. What you liked, what you didn’t care for, what rules need to be adjusted or changed. Find out if this is something that you both want to do again.
Having these discussions and open communication is key to having a positive erotic experience. Liberating your desires and fulfilling your fantasies i empowering. These type of sexual adventures with a partner can build on the bond that already exists between the two of you. It can open lines of communication and allow you each to share your most intimate desires.